22 July 2005

Unconditional Love = Overrated

A friend once asked me if it was possible for someone to "change" if he loved him hard enough. I answered, "No." Love is sometimes not enough to make anyone change. Change is a personal decision. If a person doesn't want to change or adapt in order for the relationship to become stronger, then that person doesn't love you. Loving someone unconditionally is only setting yourself up for possible disappointments and hurt. Relationships should have at least some rules and boundaries in order to minimize conflict and pain in both parties. Only God can love unconditionally for He is God and can endure it...we cannot. We are only human beings. This is one of life's lessons I've learned the hard way. It's ok, as long as I've learned. :-)