07 June 2006

Opinions

Whenever first-time blog readers (particularly Pinoys/Filipinos) of mine send me an email, they always comment on how they thought that I was “brave” for being quite open about my life, particularly about me being gay. I don’t actually consider it as “bravery,” I am just being myself. They (usually the younger Pinoys) also ask me for my input, advice or opinions on how to “come out” and this is often my reply:
“Live your life in a manner that best suits you. Whether you are in or out of the closet is not really that important anymore. What is important is you have accepted who you really are and you try live a decent & productive life in which you don't intentionally step on other people's feet in order to reach your goals and personal happiness. Because in the end, a person will not really be remembered for being gay or straight but by the way he/she has lived his/her life and the positive influence it had on the people around him/her.”
However, I would still prefer to be “out” at least to people who are important in my life (doesn't have to be the whole world) and I already explained why in one of my blog entries :-)


http://toyo925.blogspot.com/2006/03/anniversaries-coming-outs.html

10 comments:

leone said...

I couldn't agree more sexy pants. Don't shit on people on the way up as you might need them on the way down and sexuality is really on a need to know basis.

Have a great weekend - I'm off to watch the footie and grope a few footie fans - way - hey!!

Leo xx

Rey/Toyo said...

thanks leone. what country/team are you supporting? have a wonderful weekend :-)

leone said...

England and Korea in that order - England didn't play well last night against Paraguay though. I'm just hoping that they can settle down and get with the programme....

Rey/Toyo said...

Good luck to the English team :-)

leone said...

Thanks hunny bunny - so far so good (fingers crossed). Who are you supporting? As long as you don't say Germany - I wont be offended :=)

Rey/Toyo said...

i'll support the team with the cutest players and cutest uniforms. hehehe! seriously though, i support england.

JERICK said...

“Live your life in a manner that best suits you. Whether you are in or out of the closet is not really that important anymore. What is important is you have accepted who you really are and you try live a decent & productive life in which you don't intentionally step on other people's feet in order to reach your goals and personal happiness. Because in the end, a person will not really be remembered for being gay or straight but by the way he/she has lived his/her life and the positive influence it had on the people around him/her.” --THAT SEZ IT ALL... HAPPY PRIDE WEEK TOYO! -- YOUR BULACAN PAL, JERICK

Rey/Toyo said...

thank you jerick :-)
batch 1993 ka pala? i'm a year older than you since i'm batch 1992. i went through my yearbook yesterday, ang sagwa ng itsura ko sa photo. i don't know how many cans of hairspray i used to style my hair that time. hahaha!

Reggie Abadsantos said...

Tama nga ang sinabi mo. Nowadays mas maigi talaga ang maging totoo sa sarili.
Ang mahalaga lang naman ay wala kang taong tatapakan or sasaktan.
Someone told me before - it doesn't matter if you are gay or straight, as long as you show excellence in humanity.

Rey/Toyo said...

i know that there will come a day when being gay will not be a social "issue" anymore and everybody will accept everyone else regardless of their sexual orientation :-)

thanks for the message. time for this insomniac to go to sleep :-)